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That's a tricky question. Generally speaking, if you've already had a child you don't do another baby shower. But, since you are having a girl you need all of the girl stuff... clothes, girl toys, and some more things. I also think that it would never hurt to get diapers and other necessities. I don't know that people wouldn't help you out though if you didn't have a shower.
Anyway, my SIL just had a baby. She had one shower with her side of the family, and one with my BIL's side of the family. I would say that if they would like to attend a shower then maybe they should consider throwing you one themselves because there isn't very much room at the hall your doing it in (just to have an excuse) or something else. If she was being rude like that I don't know if I would go all out and invite them anyways... nobody should be drinking at a baby shower anyways since you can't!!!!!
Baby's are really expensive and it takes a lot of help from family and friends to give the little ones everything they deserve to have when they get here... and what parent doesn't want to pick out outfits and bedding for their child anyways... it doesn't mean that they shouldn't celebrate the baby with you in a shower. I would just say F*** em because they don't seem to realize how much is left to get. Good luck and enjoy your shower!

I think you should invite your husband's family as well. Don't invite all of them. Just his mother and siblings will do since they are not doing anything for you at the shower. He has no reason to get upset. He should consider that his own mother did make you, the one carrying his child upset during pregnancy. Not that you should take the pregnancy granted, but he should consider your thoughts and emotions more at this time. Do invite them as well, since they are family too and the last thing you want is a separation in the family due to issues like this. Good Luck, Congrats and Have fun !!!

Unfortunately, you have to invite your in-laws....even though they aren't the greatest thing since sliced bread.....It will save you a lot of hassle and wasted breath from arguing with your husband....TRUST ME!!

I don't think you should invite his family at all. Tell him that this is a celebration with your family and if his mom wants to do something then she can throw a small shower for their side. Obviously she doesn't want to buy you anything because she says you have enough. And by what you listed you do not have enough! I would say screw his family and make it an event with just your family so you have no worries about his family. If his family gets upset just tell her that she can throw something for their side if she wants. But it seemed like she didn't want to have a shower and that's why your mother did it. Your mother in law is a piece of work!!

I was in a similar situation when it came to my baby shower. And I did not invite the father of my child's family. If you don't want them to be there then its your choice its your day you have the right to invite and not invite anyone you please.

Sounds like your mother in law really likes to stir things up. If i have understood correctly your mother in law went into your bedroom to nosey around? Is that true? she needs to be treated as a child then both you and your husband need to spell it out to her that she never ever rummages through your private property ever, she should not even think about stepping into your room without permission. you both need to tell her face to face that this type of behaviour is not on and your husband needs to tell her that her behaviour is wholly unacceptable. have your baby shower and only invite your own family at least you'll know that they'll behave themselves. Sounds like you should keep contact with his family to a minimum if they are only intent on causing you endless trouble.

Whether or not they're paying for it, has nothing to do with whether they should get an invite... It's the nice thing to do, and shows you're the bigger person. Why be petty about it? I can understand your husband being offended if your family is there, but not his. I'm sure he doesn't want to explain that to his family, and you'll look like the bad guy, no matter your reasons... To me, it's not worth it... Just my opinion. :)