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my mother-in-law said i have enough things that "i don't need a baby shower if i do have one im just being greedy"





my husband & i bought the basics: crib, bedding set, a few sets of clothes...

i bought some bottles (there very hard to find and i bought them that way i know i will have them cause there discontinued)



my mom bought me a knitted baby set (blanket, hat, top, pants, booties, mittens) and my sister bought me a few shirts



somehow they got into my room and digged into my things and saw what i had without my permission



my MIL told my husband "she has enough things she dont need a baby shower", and this was after she said "she was going to throw me one"



i told my mom, she said dont worry you know we going to throw you one



i told my husband cause i was happy

(this my first daughter i dont have nothing)

i have a 4 yr old son, and a baby needs alot of things not just a few sets of clothes (not even a week worth)



i was making the guest list, he saw it and he asked me "where's my family at"

i told him" your mom said she was going to throw me one and took back her word its not my fault" and he got upset (was i harsh on him??)



but my mom & family is throwing me a shower and the place is fairly small and there paying for everything





at our wedding his mom invited all her friends, ate all the food (leaving none for my family) and didnt even bring no gifts



im just worried it will be a repeat like my wedding and leaving my family out in the cold again





what would yall do in my place???



would you invite your husbands family even though you know the place can hold your family (and its a big family)



(and thats the only day its open and its booked for the next three months, im having my shower at 6months)



(also the only reason he wants to invite his family so they can drink, and my family is throwing me the shower at a church hall next to my house,and his family is upset)



also they shouldnt be upset cause there arent paying for nothing my family is

he said he'll have a lil party at our house that way his family can drink (they dont go to parties if there no alchlol) and be invited (there very mexicany and my family is not)

and yes my MIL is a bitch!

me & my MIL dont get along cause i odnt speak spanish

and she's upset cause her son married a hispanic girl who dont speak spanish



i feel like she'll never accept me like her other daughter-in-law who speaks nothing but spanish

do it!!!!!

I wouldnt invite his family.

If they say you have enough that's pretty much saying that they don't want to go... why invite them? My answer is no.

i dont think you should leave them out.. be the bigger and better person.. but wow your MIL is a bitch and a half.

Unfortunately, I think they still need to be invited. Since there won't be any alcohol, hopefully they will not come...they sound like real classy people. Yikes.

i know it would seem hard to invite them even though they have disrespected you in tha past but they should still come... every baby will need lots of things, especially if its going to be a girl!!!! you should still invite them though regardless of them being rude because it would probly start some unneeded grudges and it prolly hurt your husbands feelings a lot when you said that but they should still be able to go.. i have a homegirl her babys dads mama sounds pretty similar to your mother in law... but she should still come just to be nice and make your husband happy

I would just invite his close family members- his mother, grandmothers, sisters. That way you are being the bigger person about the whole thing. Don't provide any alcohol (not sure why there would be any at a baby shower anyways especially at a church) so that will settle that. It shouldn't be about who is paying for what. It should be a shower to celebrate the love of a new baby and the miracle of life. If people just want to come in share in that it shouldn't be a concern whether they bring a gift or not just their presence should be enough. Try not to focus on all of this. Just focus on the new baby you will soon be holding. It sounds like they may not come anyways but at least you can say that they were invited. Best wishes!!!

I would say to invite them just out of "niceness." If you don't invite them that might create more for you to deal with and if you do invite them at least you can say that you were being the bigger person. And you don't want to upset your husband. These situations can be tricky and sometimes it's better for you to just do the right thing when no one else does.

im trying to put myself in your exact position and ya know what-im totally with you. how dare his mother say youre selfish if you have a baby shower. what an idiot! im happy that your family isnt taking the fun our of a great day and having a baby shower for you. your MIL seems like a kill joy so i would say dont invite his family. they didnt think you should have one so they dont need to come to it. they didnt wana pay for it-but when its free they feel like comin?? no thank you. good for you standing your ground--its your day so have fun. dont let them ruin it. they sound like those kind of people. and for your husband-try to explain to him why youre doing it this way without being hurtful or offensive. they might be sh*tty people-but theyre his family. try to explain that its your day and you dont want any negativity around..and you feel it will be if the family comes. its tough but do what makes you happy. good luck :-)